God's
Invitations bring Dilemmas.
Matthew 1:18, “This is how the birth of Jesus the
Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to
Joseph,”
Jewish
marriages took place in 3 stages: The contractual stage / espousal
stage / actual consummation.
Young people had little to do w/
the process as most marriages were pre-arranged. This marriage was
likely arranged. A legal contract would be signed w/ details of the
dowry put in writing! [ “2 Chickens for your daughter!” ] They
grew up knowing who they would marry and didn’t question
it.
After the contractual stage was the espousal stage, what
we would call an engagement period, which normally lasted about a
year. Now they were allowed to spend time together and start getting
to know each other (told to learn to love each other! [not fall in
love] Love is a choice, a decision, a commitment! [Eph. 5--God
commands men to love their wives…a decision, not just a feeling]
Today we make much more allowance for attraction, and none of us
would want our marriage completely arranged for us as it used to be,
but you have to admit we often err on the superficial side of things
as a result. God does not tell us to wait until we ‘fall’ in
love…rather, we are commanded to love…because we can ‘fall’
for anything!
In Matt. 1 they are in that espousal
stage…they are supposed to spend lots of time together, but must
keep themselves pure during this time. So,
it was important for Joseph and Mary to spend a quantity of time
together, but to avoid allowing things to get out of hand.
That
was the espousal stage…next was the actual marriage (huge 7 day
wedding feast, w/ consummation to follow.
In Matt. 1 they are
espoused, but not married…so how stunned was Joseph when he found
out she was pregnant?
If Joseph said the baby was his, it
would be a lie…and if he accused Mary of unfaithfulness, she would
be stoned. He did not want that. What would they do?
We can
read v. 18 and see that the child was conceived of the Holy Spirit…we
know that, and Mary already knew that, but Joseph did not know that
yet! All he could think, naturally, was that Mary had been unfaithful
/ immoral. It must have torn him up inside. His heart had already
come to trust in her, she seemed incapable of doing such a thing, and
it must have felt like his heart just fell out of his chest!
The
invitation of God had put Jospeh in a great dilemma!
Great
dilemmas are a large part of God's invitations...The crisis force us
to TRUST!
What
is the great dilemma in your life? Are you trusting God?
You know I love ya, Don